In Real Life: Lesson Eight
Well… well... well... look who it is. Look who stands before you so debonair and handsome. Look who has imparted wisdom onto an entire generation. Look who stands so smugly over all that he surveys. It is I, the most hated man in professional wrestling and the one you love to hate: Matt Striker. (Thank you, thank you, you're far too kind.)
I have received such a great response to my last "Striker: In Real Life" edition that I am excited to get into the mailbag so let's dive, shall we? (Contact Matt Striker now)
"Ellie" from "Parts Unknown" writes:
What would you do if someone you don't even speak to was trying to harm you, was constantly saying bad things about you and their actions might actually cost you your job?
I am a good and kind person, never caused another human being any harm. This person has a personal vendetta against me because I am a strong, independent woman and it does not sit well with his extremely old fashioned opinions.
This has been going on for four years and just getting worse. I'm not really worried for my job since I get along well with my actual boss, but, honestly, I cannot comprehend why someone would go out of their way to hurt somebody for no apparent reason. What have I ever done to him? Why did he make it his goal to sabotage my life?
Thanks for listening,
Ok, Elles Bells, I am confused. At first, you stated your job may in jeopardy and then you write that you are confident that your rapport with your boss will keep any question of termination aside.
Sounds to me like your REAL issue is the audacity of your coworker, as it pertains to his opinions of you.
Understand this: You cannot control what baggage people bring to a relationship whether civil, personal or professional. Everyone has their own "ish". The more power you give to these antiquated, juvenile actions, the more power you give to your adversary.
If the bottom line is that you do well at your job and in the overall grand scheme, your job is not in jeopardy, then ignore it. It is petty.
Let me quote the latest skin-to-ink statement by a very impact full WWE Superstar. The World Heavyweight Champion, the Rated-R Superstar, Edge, recently got a new tattoo on his forearm. It says, quite simply and profoundly: RISE ABOVE.
I suggest you do the same.
"Dan" from Boise comes up with:
I believe you are a shining example to the youth of today. Your columns are insightful, enlightening and far more preferable to the incoherent ramblings of the blogs of many other WWE stars.
I believe that, in time, your managerial skill will bring you great respect and make you a role model to many. Who were some of your role models as a young man? Who were the men and women who shaped Matt Striker?
Well, Danny boy, first let me say that many of the WWE Superstars put their own spin on their blogs or columns, and it is not for us to judge them, yet only to choose whether or not to read them.
Secondly, yes, I am great and thanks for noticing. As far as influences, well it is simple: My family has always played a huge part in my development.
My mother is the most brilliant woman I know and shaped my expectations when it comes to women in the world. My grandmother is warm and caring and showed me how a simple smile or tender gesture can make many problems seem less daunting.
My father always showed me the way through actions. He provided for families beyond his own and taught me the importance of comfort, strength and love in all aspects of life.
My grandfather is the single greatest influence in my life, hands down. A kind, caring, compassionate, funny man, my grandfather gave me a blueprint, an instruction manual to life that continues to come in handy -- even more now than ever since his passing this past summer. His motto, "The sun will always come up and this too shall pass," has lent itself to my way exponentially (which means "a lot").
Finally, all my energy and light comes from God and Jesus Christ. I treat others the way I would like to be treated. Plain and simple. It isn't about religion and judgment -- it is about love. It is about common sense and trying to do the right thing.
"Anne" from "Green Gables" ( get it !!?) chimes in with:
My little sister is 15 years old and she is going through a hard time. She's at that really awkward stage, and she starts to get really down on herself. She has no self-esteem or self-confidence. Do you have any advice on how to help her?
And what do you do when you start to really get down on yourself?
Thanks for your time.
Ahh, the trials of youth. Well, it is difficult, especially at an age where appearance and social acceptance is at an all-time high. I wish I could tell you that positive thinking and belief in one's self will solve this dilemma, but I cannot. Until she realizes that she is a great person regardless of what her peers say or do, then she will have to make mistakes and learn for herself.
You asked what do I do when I get down. I am going to answer you with a story:
When I was younger -- and to an extent even to this day -- I was very socially awkward. I dove into comic books, hockey, baseball and wrestling. As I got older and kids began to go to more "adult oriented" activities, I went further into sports, excelling to a point where I could have chosen hockey as my profession.
The one thing that kept me above all of the peer pressure and insanity of adolescence was wrestling. When I would get socially awkward and borderline on anxiety, I would look to wrestling to put a smile on my face.
Finally, one August day when I was older, I got to referee a match involving one of my all-time favorites, Jimmy "Superfly" Snuka.
As I drove home on that August night with the sun setting, it had what was almost an epiphany. I told myself I had nothing to ever lament because I just got to be in the ring with someone I admired and revered so much. I just had an opportunity to live a dream, whereas so many people spend their entire lives just watching every opportunity go by.
Take your opportunities! Grab them! If you or your sister have something you love, something you are passionate about, dive in! Once you are older, you will realize what is important and what is not.
I have my one true love and it is in this sport, this performance. I always take the advice of a great man when things are looking down: THIS TOO SHALL PASS AND THE SUN WILL ALWAYS RISE.
I hope this helps... if not, just watch Matt Striker as much as you can. That always makes people feel better.
Well, WrestleMania is upon us and I trust this year's spectacular will be a lifelong memory as all previous Wrestlemanias have been. A lot can happen in a year... if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans.
What is meant to be will be.
Sleeping in a hotel room
Underneath a silver moon
With the windows open wide
I can hear the stars go by
And all the while I'm dreaming of
The ballad for my one true love
Searching for the perfect way to say
I love you.
Sweetheart, this is my dream come true
and God bless the babies
That sleep in you.