Ask Mickie ...
WWE Diva Mickie James is offering advice to you, our fans, on everything from love to fitness to life on the road. Welcome to the first edition of "Ask Mickie":
Hi Mickie, I need help with the ladies. Will you please give me your opinion on how to get girls interested in me, how to tell when they dig me, and what to say to them when I think they do like me? This is my senior year in high school and I want to say that I have had at least one girlfriend before I go to college.
If you want my honest opinion, I would say that you are trying too hard. I know this may sound a bit clichéd, but you should just be yourself. When you are comfortable in your own skin and have fun in life, you will in turn attract people who want to have fun with you. I would suggest go out and just have fun, do stuff you enjoy doing, and don't be afraid to talk to women. Women like to talk, so ask them questions about themselves, what they like, their job, favorite movies or music. Also what's big with me is when someone looks into my eyes when we are talking because then I know they are listening to what I have to say and are not thinking about something else, or what to say next. You can tell if someone's into you by their body language. They will turn their body towards you, get closer, look in your eyes, or smile. It's actually pretty easy to see the signs. You just have to be aware, and step through the door once its open, because if you miss it, it might not open again.
Hey Mickie, I'm a beautiful girl that loves to have fun just like any teenager, but I've got some acne. Can you give me some advice to make it vanish so I don't have to worry about how I look?
Unfortunately, acne is one of those evil things we all have to deal with. Everyone gets zits. The key is to know your skin and what sets it off. It could be one of the products you're using, like the face wash, lotion, makeup, and so on. I would suggest you use brushes and sponges to apply your makeup. Also, wash your brushes and only use the sponges once and toss it. If you are unsure about your skin, then go to a department store in the mall where they have the skin care section, and they can tell you the type of skin you have and what type of products are best for it. Try not to use alcohol based cleansers because they dry out your skin. And don't use too many products because it clogs your pores, which in turn infects them, hence a ZIT!!!!
Hi Mickie. I'm a huge fan and want to thank you for taking the time to offer advice to your fans. I'm 22 years old, and I've been in a relationship for the past year with a girl I really do care about, and have really come to fall in love with over the last few months. When we started seeing each other we agreed to keep our relationship open, so both of us see other people. We've had moments where we've told each other we love each other and meant it, but neither one of us has been willing to take the step to ask the other to make our relationship exclusive. This is a girl who I do see myself being able to settle down with and have a family with, which is something we've discussed and both want eventually in our lives. I'm just afraid to tell her how I feel, because she may not be ready to go exclusive, and I don't want to push her away. I really do love her and want to be with her, as she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. As a female, I was hoping you could tell me how you would feel if you were in her situation, and the guy you were seeing wanted to go exclusive. She's really important to me and the last thing I ever want is to lose her. Thanks for taking the time to read this, and if you don't get back to me I understand because you're so busy.
Thank you for reading,
Nervous in New York
Dear Nervous in New York,
I think you should be open with her and tell her exactly how you feel. You both need to be honest with each other and yourselves as far as what you want from this relationship. You are both still very young and have your whole lives ahead of you. If she still doesn't want to take it to the next level, then I would ask her why. You may not like the answer she gives you, but at least you know and you're not just sitting around waiting and hoping. The problem with having an open relationship and allowing it to continue when it's not what you really want is that the other person "has their cake and eats it too."
I always love that saying because who really grabs the cake without the intention of eating it. It's really kind of funny when you think about it. Anyway, back to the subject. In other words, she has the comfort and security of a relationship while still having the freedom to go out and be "single." It's really not fair to you unless that is the type of relationship you truly desire. In the end, if she doesn't want to step the relationship up, then I would let her go. I know that's not what you want to hear, but honestly I feel that you would be settling for something that you really don't want, and no one deserves to settle.
Well, I have a problem a BIG problem. The future is coming, and I don't know how to stop it. It's getting to that time in my life where I have to think about what I'm going to do with the rest of my life! Well, you see, I really want to go into wrestling, most likely the WWE, but the problem is my grandma doesn't want me to be anything but a lawyer. Plus, my boyfriend doesn't support me either! I love my grandma and my boyfriend, but as soon as I get out of high school (this year), I'm training in Japan with my mentor! This is my dream. Mickie, should I go to Japan and disappoint everyone, or go to college and become a lawyer? I need HELP!
Sincerely a BIG FAN,
I can assure you that your grandmother will love you, no matter what decision you make. She is just looking at your future and wants the best for you. Your boyfriend probably has his reasons as well, although I'm sure they are probably a little more selfish. He just doesn't want you to be so far away, and I'm sure you and he both are aware that long distance relationships are not easy. I would never deter anyone from following their dream, so I would say go for it. I truly hope you make it far and hopefully give me a run for my money. I would suggest that anyone who has a dream, no matter how big, they should go out and get it and never take no for an answer. If you don't, then you will always wonder, "What if?" I never would have made it this far if I had listened to all the people who told me I was chasing a wild dream, and I'd never make it. Instead, I used to fuel me and make me work that much harder. I think everyone should.
However, I would only suggest you do so if you are smart enough to have something to fall back on, meaning school, or a trade. This is a very risky and competitive business, and it's not for everyone. If you don't want to be a lawyer that's fine, but think about what else you would like to do. Something you could see yourself doing if wrestling wasn't an option. There's no reason you couldn't study a trade or go to school, whether it be in Japan or online while you are training.
Hey Mickie, I am in need of some help. I would like to lose some weight but tone up at the same time. I have given myself two to three months to shed some noticeable weight. Is there any advice you can give me? The thing is, I am a teacher and am always busy with school work, so have very little time to do the stamina and resistance work needed to shed weight. Can you find a solution for this? Thank you.
First off, I can see that you have already limited yourself by saying that you have limited time. If you truly want it, then you will find the time. If I were you I would get up the extra hour early and do cardio everyday before work. You could go for a run, walk the dog, rollerblade, bike around your neighborhood for 45minutes or pack a bag and head to the gym. Also, the gyms have a lot of fun classes like kickboxing, step, boot camp, and dance that targets all your muscles, giving you a high impact total body workout while burning tons of calories. You could try them all and see which ones you like the best. I like to switch it up so I don't get bored with the same routines. The only one I live by and do every week is yoga. It makes you use your muscles in a completely different way, and it's so good for your mind and body. Also, most gyms have showers and nice setups, so you could get ready for work there. Once you get yourself on a schedule, then it's a breeze.
I'm not saying I'm depressed … because I have a great life, home, and family. But there are times when I get really down. How do you keep yourself so happy and cheerful all the time??? Is there anything special you do? Or is it just your natural personality? Well thanks for reading. I'm a huge fan and thanks for making all of your performances so memorable.
Just so you know I am definitely not happy-go-lucky 100 percent of the time. If I was, I think I would worry that I'm masking my emotions. After all, everyone is entitled to their moments. However, I do try to not allow myself to become too depressed. I love nature and animals, so if I'm really upset, I will usually go outside in the sun, either to the park with my dog, or to the farm with the horses, or for a ride in the car through the country and think about why I'm upset and what I can do to change it. But I don't dwell on it because it really gets us nowhere. So instead, I think about all the good things in my life and how lucky I am to have them. You are very blessed to have a home, your family and friends, and a great life.
You said it yourself. I believe that we have become so used to focusing on the negative that we sometimes forget about the positives. You turn on the news and all you hear is negative -- the Hollywood stars are always being bashed. It's like it's so hard for anyone to say a kind word about anyone or thing these days. But in reality, there is just as much goodness out there as there is bad. It's just where you choose to focus your intentions on. I'm not saying you should walk around with blinders on and completely negate every negative thing that comes before you. I just mean you should try to see the good in life and be grateful for it. If you're still down, then go do something or go somewhere that you love.
My name is Shaun and I live in Atlanta, Georgia. I have a problem. I have a girlfriend in Houston because that is where I'm from, and when I left that's when everything started to happen. Now there is a girl who lives in my apartment and just a few days ago she said she liked me and I like her, too. What can I do to solve this problem? I really like both of them I just don't know who to pick. Can you help me out pllleeeaassseee?
Let's see. So, you are asking me if you should stay in the relationship that's miles away, that you see hardly ever now or try talking to the girl in your apartment. The fact that you are even asking this question tells me you don't truly love your girlfriend, so I would let her go so she can find someone who does. However don't be so bold if you do end up breaking up with her. You should be honest, just not brutally honest. As for the girl in your apartment building, does she know you have a girlfriend? If she does, and she's still making moves on you, is that really the type of girl you want to be with? I would assume that you're still very young and probably haven't been in a lot of relationships, so I guess you probably don't care. And since its obvious you need the experience, then I would tell you to maybe date this girl, but see what else is out here for you as well. I don't think you truly want or are ready for anything serious right now with anyone.
I'm Rae, a fan of yours from the Philippines! Anyway, off to my question. I've been living away from my family for a while because of school. But before, I usually got to meet them on weekends since where I lived was pretty close to home. Now, I'm going in college, living in a farther place and I can only go home once every few months. You've experienced travel away from your family for months as well. I'm still a bit homesick every now and then. Can you offer a few tips on this?
I know how hard it is, being so far away from your loved ones. Since you can't go see them as much, why don't you have them send you something that reminds you of them from home? I remember when I lived in Louisville for a few years. There was this one point when I got really homesick, and it stressed me out. So I talked to mom about it, and would you believe show drove all the way out there with a bunch of stuff she brought from home. These were little things that I grew up with in the house, and it made it feel so much more like home. Every time I would look at the stuff, it would make me smile. Perhaps you could do the same. When you can't be home, bring home to you.
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